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Bonnie Tai's avatar

Oh Lani, thank you so much for writing this. It is delightful to get a glimpse of your journey. I can relate to so many things you shared, especially this - "the ones raised in two worlds, the ones who don’t fit in because the Americans see you as Asian and the Asians see you as Americanized." For me, I have never felt belonged in Hong Kong, my hometown; whereas Australia feels like home to me, from the moment I landed there in my teens. But I am aware that many Australians still see me as a Chinese, never an Australian.

Also love, love, love this - "My identity, these days, hasn’t been so much a struggle, as it is an interesting reflection of how others interpret me. Identity is a fascinating set of circumstances that others place upon you, and it’s up to us to decide if it’s a cage, or a castle, or something entirely different.

I chose different."

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Veronika Bond's avatar

Brilliant, Lani! I love this article about 3rd culture identity, and your intro into Thai culture. It reminds me of Arabic culture, where people always want to know 'how much have you paid' when you come away from the local Bazaar with anything. And as soon as you tell them, everyone insists that you have paid too much and should have bargained harder (unless you got an exceptionally good deal... 😅)

And this › "Identity is a fascinating set of circumstances that others place upon you, and it’s up to us to decide if it’s a cage, or a castle, or something entirely different.

I chose different." › is precious! 💗🙏

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